Okay, maybe NEED is too strong a pronouncement.  

But you may want to consider learning more about the art of yoni (Sanskrit for vagina) massage. 

And I’m not necessarily saying that you need to go out and GET one, but if you are game you could do that too.

I AM suggesting that yoni massage — and even simple exploration of your own vaginal anatomy — could bring surprising rewards!  

Naomi Wolf, in her book Vagina: A New Biography, suggests that vaginal tissue holds it’s own consciousness, and it’s a consciousness worth exploring! We hold so much tension and emotion in our vaginal tissue that learning how to massage, manipulate and relax those fibers and muscles can bring valuable insights — as well as increased pleasure.  

And isn’t that what it is that we're all looking for? More pleasure please!

Suffice it to say that a yoni massage can bring you these 6 lovely benefits:

1. Reduced pelvic pain.

2. Improved physical sensation.

3. Improved circulation and lubrication.

4. Increased creation and connection.

5. Increased energy and vitality.

6. Increased self awareness and confidence.

Some would say there are even more benefits than that!  

And if you would prefer to have someone do it for you, there’s an opportunity for that out there too! You can read about a couple of first hand experiences before you go ahead and book one. Just make sure you do your research and go to a reputable practitioner.

Probably one of the BEST reasons to explore a yoni massage by yourself (or for yourself) is because we are ALL different! Never is there a one size fits all in terms of sex and sexuality, and if you don’t know how you are wired, you just can't expect your partner to figure it out either.

“Every woman is wired differently," Wolf says. "Some women’s nerves branch more in the vagina; other women’s nerves branch more in the clitoris. Some branch a great deal in the perineum, or at the mouth of the cervix. That accounts for some of the differences in female sexual response.” 

At the age of 85, Betty Dodson — considered the grandmother of masturbation and self love, and author of the 1973 book Sex For One — perhaps said it best:

“Keep up a sexual relationship with yourself, you can have first-rate orgasms by yourself.”   

So go ahead, be curious and explore what exactly is going on down there.

Relax, it’s a part of you!

Michele Brookhaus RSHom(NA), CCH is the playful creator of Yoni's Bliss, a homeopathic lubricating gel.  She believes ALL women are entitled, worthy and capable of juicy connections. Find her product at